By Lisa R. Ferentz
It is estimated that one to
two million people in the United States intentionally and repeatedly
bruise, cut, burn, mark, scratch and mutilate different parts of their own
bodies.1 This estimate represents only the adolescents and adults who
actually seek help for the behavior. Since the wounds inflicted are not
intended to be life-threatening, often do not require medical attention
and are frequently dismissed as "accidental," clinicians and researchers
believe that many people engage in acts of self-inflicted violence who are
never treated or included in mental health statistics.
In recent years, however,
there appears to be a dramatic increase in the number of younger and older
adolescents who engage in self-injurious behavior (SIB).2 Family members
and friends are justifiably confused, angry and frightened by the idea of
a teenager deliberately and repeatedly hurting his or her own body.
Adolescents who self-harm experience tremendous tension and anxiety before
the act, along with an intense preoccupation with injuring themselves.
Many people report that the
impulse to injure is irresistible and cannot be thwarted. The teenager may
feel little or no pain as the cut, burn or scratch is inflicted. There can
be feelings of gratification, relief, comfort, and even arousal after the
act of self-harm. Despite the fact that many teens are psychologically
invested in the behavior and feel helpless to stop, self-injurious
behavior can be reduced and eventually extinguished. Often, a combination
of individual and family therapy, self-help strategies, self-injurious
behavior substitutes, medication and the use of community resources and
support groups can help individuals reclaim a healthy sense of control
over their bodies.
Symptoms of self-injurious behavior
Adolescents who engage in
self-injurious behavior are performing deliberate and repetitive acts of
physical harm to their own bodies.3 The behavior is usually done secretly
and privately. It may be planned and ritualistically performed, or it may
occur impulsively and without forethought.
The most common manifestation
of self-injury is cutting and slashing.4 Although most self-harmers have a
preferred method, many teenagers who habitually hurt themselves do so in a
variety of ways: burning the skin, limb-hitting and bruising,
head-banging, picking at wounds, peeling the skin, deep biting, severe
skin scratching, nail and cuticle biting, pulling out hair, bone breaking,
swallowing sharp objects and inserting sharp objects or toxic liquids into
the body. The most targeted body parts are the upper limbs. Adolescents
may use razorblades, scissors and knives to cut the skin, and cigarettes,
lighters and matches to burn themselves. They can also take seemingly
benign objects such as paperclips, pen caps, jewelry, fingernails and nail
clippers, and turn them into self-harming tools.
Contrary to popular belief,
tattoos and body piercings are not considered forms of self-injurious
behavior. This is because they are performed by someone else in a social
context and are primarily designed to beautify the body.5 However,
teenagers who allow piercings to become infected and then pick at the
wounds or secretly pierce or tattoo their own bodies to relieve anxiety or
"feel better" are engaging in self-injury.
The wounds from self-injurious
behavior are, by definition, not life-threatening and are not intended to
be manifestations of suicidal ideation or suicidal gesturing.6 The
severity of the injury is usually measured by three factors: the extent of
the damage, the level of medical intervention it requires, and the
location of the wound.7
Many injuries leave only
superficial damage to the first layer of skin and require nothing more
than cleansing the area. Other injuries may break the skin, creating minor
to significant bleeding. Some wounds require stitches, and the most
serious wounds may require complex repair, leading to disfigurement and
scarring. Although some teenagers claim that it’s "cool" or "brave" to
self-injure, most adolescents who hurt themselves feel some sense of shame
and repulsion about self-harming. They think the behavior is "weird or
crazy," but feel alienated and isolated and powerless to stop. They are
usually reluctant to disclose what they are doing. These individuals often
present as depressed, anxious and overwhelmed. Some teens present with
false bravado and appear angry, defensive or uncaring.
Often, adolescents who hurt
themselves may be engaging in other forms of self-destructive behavior,
including reckless driving, shoplifting, sexual promiscuity or unprotected
sex, substance abuse and eating-disordered behaviors. Anyone who engages
in self-harm is desperately trying to cope with overwhelming feelings and
thoughts. Self-inflicted violence is meant to soothe, alleviate anxiety,
and increase a sense of power and control. Ironically, as the behavior
escalates, it actually exacerbates feelings of disempowerment, alienation
and helplessness.
Who is likely to engage in self-injurious behavior?
Both males and females engage
in self-injurious behavior. Self-harm often begins in early adolescence,
peaks between the ages of 18 and 24, and decreases as the person enters
the 30s and 40s. There are, however, cases of self-harm occurring in much
younger children and continuing into middle age.
Adolescents are particularly
vulnerable as they face many difficult and inherently stressful
developmental challenges. The body undergoes profound change during
adolescence. It is a time of physiological and psychological turbulence
and uncertainty. Faced with abrupt and embarrassing changes, teens can
feel a loss of control of their bodies. For many adolescents, experiencing
a sense of alienation from their own bodies becomes a powerful catalyst
for and predictor of self-injurious behavior.8 In addition, teenagers
struggle with the need for peer acceptance, shifting peer allegiances, a
greater desire for autonomy and control and complicated decisions and
conflicts that demand resolution.
Within this overwhelming
context, adolescents are at even greater risk when their parents are
physically or emotionally unavailable to them. In some families, there may
be unhealthy communication, parental alcoholism, untreated mental illness,
financial stress, domestic violence and parental neglect or pro-longed
absences. Teens are unable to negotiate these challenges, process their
feelings and articulate their needs without the guidance, support and
feedback of a nurturing caretaker. They simply do not have the required
coping skills to manage on their own, and they discover that
self-injurious behavior is one way to deal with life.
Teenagers who have undiagnosed
and untreated depression and anxiety are more likely to engage in
self-harming behaviors as a way to self-soothe and self-medicate. Teens
who struggle with low self-esteem and feelings of worthlessness are
equally at risk. Adolescents with dissociative disorders, posttraumatic
stress disorder, substance abuse problems and eating disorders are at
increased risk to cut or burn. One of the greatest risk factors is a
history of physical, emotional or sexual abuse.9 Trauma survivors learn to
internalize their rage and dissociate or "check out" to escape pain. In
addition, they have had their perpetrators model a blatant disregard for
the safety and well being of their bodies. This combination of experiences
almost inevitably sets the stage for some form of self-destructive
behavior.
Understanding self-harm
Self-harm is first and
foremost a coping strategy. It manages overwhelming thoughts and feelings
by short-circuiting them. Often, an individual’s behavior will be
triggered by a simple life event. The event will create negative thoughts
such as "I will always be a failure" and negative feelings such as rage or
despair. Without the tools to handle these thoughts and feelings,
tremendous tension and anxiety are produced. As the tension builds, the
adolescent begins to dissociate or zone out, looking for an escape. Once
the teen has dissociated, he or she is able to hurt the body without
experiencing any real pain.
The dissociative process
allows teenagers to detach from their own bodies, their environment and
their behavior. As the body is injured, they immediately experience
positive effects. The negative thoughts and feelings are forgotten and a
fleeting sense of control is reclaimed. Perhaps, most importantly, the
body responds to the trauma of injury by releasing endorphins: naturally
occurring opiates.10 The release of endorphins allows the teenager to feel
"high," "euphoric" and "relieved." The shock of seeing blood helps some
teenagers feel "alive and real." Unfortunately, the positive effects are
always followed by negative outcomes, including a loss of control, a
feeling of failure, shame and guilt, depression and self-hatred. Some
adolescents have no conscious memory of hurting themselves and are
actually frightened when they discover a wound. Others report that they
can "watch themselves" engage in self-harm, but they feel "powerless" to
stop the process. These negative outcomes leave the teen emotionally
vulnerable and primed to be triggered by the next "threatening" event.
This helps to explain the repetitive or cyclical nature of self-injurious
behavior.11
People self-harm for many
reasons. It has already been described as a way to re-claim control over
the body. For some, self-harm is a way to punish the body for physically
maturing or for its "participation" in sexual abuse. Most adolescent
survivors of abuse do not blame their perpetrators. They tend to introject
the experience and blame themselves and their own bodies for sexual
trauma. Self-harm is a way to externally express internalized rage.
Self-harm also can be a reenactment of trauma.12
Many teenagers hurt their
bodies in ways that replicate earlier abuse. The location and nature of
the wound often tell a non-verbal story about the abuse. Creating a mark
or an injury is a way to make internal, invisible wounds external and
visible. It lets others bear witness to the pain, making it more tangible
and real for the adolescent. A wound affirms the reality and validity of
internal pain.
Self-harm also provides the
opportunity for self-care.13 Wounds can be washed, bandaged, and lovingly
attended to as part of the ritual. In some ways, this replicates prior
abuse: the body is comforted after it is hurt.
Some teens create wounds as
"event markers." It is a concrete way to remember something important or
traumatic that has happened to them. Sometimes old scars unlock stories
about important events from the past. It is also a way to create euphoria,
security and a sense of identity. It is always a cry for help. It should
always be taken seriously and never ignored. It is imperative that family
and friends talk openly about self-injurious behavior when they suspect it
is occurring. Talking non-judgmentally about the behavior helps to reduce
the shame and secrecy that often surrounds self-harm. Talking to someone
provides a sense of hope and often leads to resources that can provide
help. Acknowledging that the behavior exists is the first step towards
recovery.
Treatment strategies
Psychotherapy — It
is extremely important to work with a helping professional who has an
expertise in self-injurious behavior or related disorders. Psychotherapy
can provide a non-judgmental and supportive environment where self-injury
can be processed openly and the meaning behind the injury can be explored.
Trained therapists can provide safer, alternative ways to communicate,
self-soothe and cope. The use of journaling, art therapy, relaxation
techniques, visualizations, cognitive re-framing and affect management are
all recommended and useful.
Appropriate contracts that
encourage the teenager to write, draw, exercise and self-soothe before
engaging in self-injurious behavior are more effective than contracts that
demand the immediate cessation of the behavior. When the self-injury is
severe, the teenager is unable to integrate strategies and abide by a
safety contract or additional problems such as substance abuse or a
threatening eating disorder are evident, inpatient treatment is often
required.
In addition to working with a
trained therapist some teens are able to utilize resources such as
personal journaling and drawing, meditation, spiritual support and healthy
self-injurious behavior substitutes such as physical exercise.
Psychopharmacology —
When self-injurious behavior connects to untreated depression or anxiety,
medication can be extremely useful. Anti-depressants can dramatically
reduce the negative feelings and cognitions associated with the cycle of
self-harm. Anxiolytics prevent the escalation of panic and generalized
anxiety, which decreases the need for dissociation and self-injury.
Providing a pharmacological safety net also may allow adolescents to
process painful trauma memories without becoming flooded or overwhelmed.
Conclusion
Self-injurious behavior can be
reduced and eventually extinguished once the adolescent is ready to
embrace alternative behaviors designed to promote healthier communication,
self-comfort and genuine healing.
Lisa R. Ferentz, LCSW-C is a clinical social worker
in private practice in Baltimore, an adjunct faculty member at the
University of Maryland School of Social Work and a consultant to
practitioners and community agencies on trauma and self-care. She can be
reached at 410-486-0351.
This article is reprinted with permission from New York
University Child Study Center’s www.aboutourkids.org electronic
newsletter, Volume 6 Number 2, November/December 2001.
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